This week I forgot to bring my USB drive with my training material to work.
This could have been an extremely shitty situation if I wasn’t so wise to copy paste the PowerPoint slides on one of the computers.
However, that particular computer was taken by another colleague.
I hate asking someone for a favor. But I had no choice other than switch laptops.
He agreed and I couldn’t be more relieved.
“Thank you so much!”, I said, “and I am sorry for the inconvenience”.
“Me too”, he said with an annoyed look.
This made me remember why I avoid people.
Being nice seems like a huge effort for most.
Being cool, funny, smart, good looking are all kind of characteristics most people would like to be mentioned by.
But you hardly hear someone striving to be called nice.
But then again, what defines someone as “nice”?
Empathy is the first thing that comes to mind.
However, whenever I have tried to talk about a personal issue, people either took it as complaining or couldn’t relate.
Some found my lack of socialising rude.
But then when they would talk to me one on one, I’d hear that I am actually “quite nice”.
If I look at the reviews that I get on trainings, people can’t really seem to agree about me either.
I have been getting over the top comments like “Not the most exciting topic, but the relaxed approach of the teacher made it fun!” And “Best teacher ever!!”.
One even baked me a cake to thank me for the good days.
I also got a box of chocolates once.
Though, none of those have ever took the effort of keeping in touch with me, other than the occasional facebook add.
And like you might have read in my previous post, some people can’t stand me.
Some have litteraly told me that I am an extremely annoying person.
For me it’s hard to determine what people actually consider the contributing factors of me being nice or not.
Nobody has ever been specific about it. I have never asked either.
Except for to Jasper.
He gave me a long list of my obvious awesomeness, but one thing stood out:
“I like how kind you are to animals”.
I think it’s true.
Animals have effect on me that humans don’t.
When I see a happy dog or even the more passive but cute neighbor’s bunny, my heart turns soft.
I can’t help but smile of genuine joy.
The amount of time that I have cried over human interaction is way larger than the smiles.
Finally, do I consider myself to be nice?
I really don’t think I ever had bad intentions.
In fact I’d say I put others conviences over mine.
Until, someone decide to falsely acccuse me or can’t stop pushing me into something that clearly isn’t comfortable for me.
Those things I will never be able forgive.
And that’s when I will become impossible to deal with.
Do you do try to be nice?
Is there anyone you would describe as really nice? And what makes them that?