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Breaking the standard outlook on strengths and weaknesses

“What are your strengths and weaknesses?”.

There is a high chance that you have been asked this question numerous times before.
If you are in a “smart ass mood”, you could consider to answer with “I don’t believe in weaknesses, only improvements”.

Either way, this annoying question will give nothing else than a standard list of pre-googled terms.

Take a look at the list below and think about whether you see them as a good or bad quality.

Honesty.
Loyalty.
Ambition.
Being able to perform under stress.
Impatience.

Some of these might seem as a no brainer.
But let’s have a deeper look into them.


Honesty
“Can I be honest with you?”, Jasper asked me carefully.
“Sure!”, I said confidently.
Now that my hair has finally grown, I am excited to try out different hair styles.
Jasper proceeded with telling me that he didn’t like a certain hair piece.
I fell silent and a sudden feeling of embarrassment crept up in me.
This particular hair piece I have been wearing quite often because obviously I did think it looked good on me.

Someone’s honesty is usually not a fact, but merely an opinion.
Often times I have chosen to answer NO when someone asked me if they could be honest with me.
Sometimes it’s better to prevent from myself of ending up in tears.

Another example could be that your long term partner cheated on a drunken night.
Would you want to know? And risk to loose it all?


Loyalty
Being loyal towards a company and expecting them to do the same to me, might be one of the biggest lessons learned of 2019.
I have continued teaching while the devil was delivering my monthly cramps.
I didn’t take a sick day when I could barely talk due to a soar throat.
I have travelled on Sundays and only got half paid.
And I didn’t even get as much as a smile of appreciation.
In fact, once again I am being thrown away like old trash.

When I once pointed this out to my manager, he told me that I should not take it for granted that I can now add the big company name on my CV.
He turned red when I told him to stop acting like a charity case.
All this corporation really is, is simple trade of services for salary.

Ambition
The question Where do you see yourself in 5 years? is the one that makes me groan the most.
I don’t even know what I will cook for tomorrow’s dinner!
Lord knows what will happen in 5 years.
Once I actually answered with What can you offer me?
They did not appreciate my sarcastic approach.

Why does everyone needs high sky ambitions these days anyway?
Why isn’t it just enough to become good at the job you have applied for?

Being able to perform under stress.
I find it extremely difficult to understand why this is so often written in vacancies.
What kind of marketing is that?
Come work for us! We offer stress!

Once I said in a job interview that maybe they should first focus on making the workplace a less stressful environment.
Needless to say, I didn’t get the job.
But it was totally worth it 😉

Impatience
While this might not be the best way to say it, impatience doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing.
Of course, if rage emerges out of it, that is a whole different issue.
But I often like to consider impatient people as those who like to do things efficiently.

I remember this one time in workshop.
We were going on about a topic for way too long.
Everyone threw in their opinion, but we didn’t have any facts.
Then, the short man with the way too large glasses and cowboy boots stood up impatiently.
“You guys carry on. I am going to investigate this topic and present at the end of the day”, he said before walking out of the room.

This man became my hero.


How do you answer the question of naming your strengths and weaknesses?

Do you agree with my point of view with each quality? Please elaborate. 

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  1. Such an interesting debate.

    Whenever someone would ask if they could be honest with me, I’d reply: “Of course! I want you to ALWAYS be honest with me.” Recently, however, I observed that I’ve been saying: “No.” Why? Because I wasn’t in the right state of mind when the question was asked. However, after a couple of seconds, I urged the other person to say whatever they wanted to say. I just needed a few seconds to prepare myself.

    The cheating I go back and forth on. Yes, I would want to know so that I can make an educated decision. Moreover, I want to know before I am told by someone outside of the relationship. That would definitely sting. However, if I’m happy, would I really want anything ruined? I think it comes down to the reason for the affair. Was it a one time thing? Why did it happen. Very rarely it’s something that only happens once and does not have any effect on the relationship.

    The loyalty argument made me laugh. Well, not really. It’s rather quite sad how you learn that “do onto others as you would want done onto you” is a one way street. I’m in the same boat as you. The only thing is that I’ve always known it. Despite being a realist, I always try to look for the good in people. I try to think that maybe this person will not disappoint… and then you learn the truth.

    RE: Ambition: 100% agree. Nothing more to say.

    I work alright under stress (maybe better than some). However, I, too, have my breaking point. When I see things like that on a job description, it does make me wonder. Red flag for sure. Unfortunately, it seems that this is becoming the next “and other duties as assigned.” Everyone adds it to their ad and they think it’s fine. Does it reflect the reality of the job? Most definitely. Is it fair? Not at all. You said it well. When I was interviewing for this position, I was asked if I can handle stress and conflict. I can. For some time. After a while, it just becomes toxic. My HR rep nearly had a heart attack when I went to chat with them about a year after I started. They thought I was quitting. I wasn’t. I was trying to see if there are more opportunities. There weren’t. The reason why they were petrified is because they know I work with people that no one else can handle. I’ve been told that by many people. I am at a point where I can no longer take this with a smile. I ran out of popcorn. If people are collectively unable to work with someone, why don’t they do something instead of hiring new people every few months? Where’s the logic?

    During my evaluation, under efficiency, I was told I don’t have enough to do. Why? Because I’m efficient. Way to motivate me. Looks like I might have to perform at a slower pace to meet their lofty needs.

    My comments are always walls of text under your posts. Oh well, I am just being honest.

    The strengths and weaknesses question is silly. It’s a cliche you google before going for an interview. It tells you a distorted truth about the candidate. I believe in just having a conversation, or paying someone for a day to see how they work.

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    1. Haha. I knew you!
      You would never resist a chance to get or argue with someone’s opinion 😉
      However, when someone starts a sentence with “do you want me to be honest with you”, it most likely means bad news.
      I used to be curious, but lately I try to avoid. Or honestly, I avoid people altogether 😉

      I gave up on trying to see the good in people. If someone appears genuine at first glance, I give them the benefit of the doubt.

      Of course there is stress in every workplace, but that is mainly due to bad communication and planning. Or managers being secretive.

      You had HR sweating?
      Awesome!

      Oh for crying out loud.
      Who is responsible to give out tasks, you or your manager?!
      THEY hired YOU.
      If they for whatever reason think you have too little work, it’s up to THEM to find more for you.
      And then to not recognize someone’s talent for efficiency.

      Keep on commenting. Honestly, you seem to be the only one. But I am mainly curious about your point of view anyhow 😉
      I changed a lot in my why of thinking about blogging. Whereas it was a completely different story 1.5 years ago, I now hardly care about likes and followers. Unfortunately that does mean that my passion has decreased massively.

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      1. I am SO glad to have you back on WP!
        Your comments have substance, while being funny, and sarcastic.

        I read the first few lines and realized how well you really know me. That’s something my partner would say about me (100%), but someone online? Whom I never met face-to-face? That’s pretty neat!

        I’m glad you’re not obsessing over stats, but I am sad to hear that your passion for blogging isn’t there as much as it used to be. I hope that you find your niche soon enough.

        Stay golden!

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        1. I don’t know why I wrote “I knew you”.
          I meant “I know it”.
          But basically same-same 😉

          I honestly think a few times a week “this is something Goldie would roll their eyes over/ laugh about”.
          Can’t think of something now, but I will remember the next time it happens.

          It’s cool to hear that your partner knows you like that!
          I pretty much know how Jasper will react at any given occassion. 😄

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          1. I wondered about it as well when I first red it, but then I realized you meant to say: “Haha. I knew you would never resist a chance to get or argue with someone’s opinion” without the exclamation and the second “you.”

            That’s too funny! I’m glad we were able to connect.

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