Has anyone ever advised you “not to stress” in a moment where you visibly had it more stressful than them?
I can’t be the only one who finds it incredibly annoying.
The fact that a saying like this makes me want to punch a wall, will not help me in proving my point of me NOT BEING STRESSED at all.
Today I was teaching one of my last classes.
While the people were great fun, I highly doubted that any of them would have passed the test with a bit of help from the teacher.
And with a little, I was constantly dragged from one side of the classroom to the other to help them out with the questions.
The fact that each of them had different questions, who were more tricky than difficult, didn’t make it easier for me.
I find the ability to help others one of the best feelings, but I am sure that the sweat on my forehead showed that it was a bit exhausting.
And probably the class was more than thankful for my helpful, them leaving as fast as they can doesn’t give me quite that confirmation.
I was left behind with the huge mess they made.
To my big surprise, one stayed behind to help me to clean up.
I gave him a smile of appreciation.
That’s when he said it.
“You know Andrea, I used to be stressed like you, but since I gave that up, I feel much happier”.
Time to get the shotgun.
He does realize that I didn’t really needed to stress and help all of them out.
I could have just taken my 30 minutes of relaxation and watch all of them fail.
Because, without my corrections, that’s what would have happened.
And then they had to tell that news to their manager.
Let’s see if you could have kept that stress to a minimum.
Everyone these days seems to be so obsessed with living a stress free life.
And if you even do as much as sigh too loud, they are ready to give you the same old advice of “just don’t stress”.
Easier said than done.
Besides, what is the alternative?
Hold it in until you burst?
What is wrong with giving someone an opportunity to vent?
Let that battery drain.
You won’t do anyone, let alone yourself, a favour by running in overload.
“I am not stressed”, I told him, “it was just a bit…. well, stressful for me”.
“But we all passed”, he argued.
This was the straw that broke the camel’s back.
“No. It was actually me who basically passed the test 9 times”.
But I found a way to hold that in.
I knew I couldn’t have won that argument without looking stressed.
How do you feel when someone advices you to “just not stress”?
Do you often tell that someone else?