Have you ever observed people and thought to yourself “Are you for real”?
Urban Dictionary describes this phrase as:
When someone says something so outrageous that you have to clarify their sanity.
Some people seem to have their head so far up their ass, that all they see are unicorns and rainbows through their rose tinted glasses.
Or at least, they pretend to see good in everything and everyone.
Last week I went for dinner with one of the course participants.
During the course I saw that he was not entirely there with his mind and felt like he had to get something of his chest.
So I let him.
I am more of a listener than a talker, anyway.
His issue seemed a bit deeper than just the admin stuff he had to take care of.
And thus he started telling his life story.
When he mentioned that last year he changed his life for the better, after reading one of those motivational books, I cringed instantly.
If there is only one thing that I dislike more than my manager it must be those kind of books.
They are too superficial and generic.
They make it look like life is so incredibly easy.
But I prepared myself to stay calm, smile and nod during his rant.
I did struggle when he started to give me advice on how to live my life.
Mainly because he hadn’t shown any interest in anything I do.
Then my phone screen lighted up because of an incoming text message.
My background picture become visible: my little sceptical heart.
He asked about it.
I should have stopped myself there and then, but my doodles are truly my pride and joy.
The Sceptical heart was created during a team building event where we were asked to draw something that is our trademark.
I don’t really believe in this, because I have changed a lot over the years.
But the one constant that remained is that I have always been a Sceptic by Heart.
(Hence the name of this blog 😉 ).
He stared at it for a while.
I didn’t expect a compliment, but secretly hoped for it.
Instead he started lecturing me how his holy book said that skeptism will prevent you from experiencing life to its fullest.
Our conversation continued with a question from him about my plans now that I don’t have a job anymore.
I told him about this company that I have tried to apply for several times but was declined each time.
“I am starting to believe it’s impossible to get in”, I laughed.
His face turned serious.
“My book says that nothing is impossible if you just believe in yourself! You should be less critical to yourself and not give up”.
There are a few things to say about his statement.
First of all, if I ever get hold of that damn book, I am going throw it to his face.
Also, he MUST realize that the author has written it for profit reasons and not to make HIS life better.
Really? All I have to do is believe in myself?
That easy, ha?
I will tell my parents that the financial struggles to pay for my education were not needed AT ALL.
We just had to believe in me.
I’m sure they’ll be delighted to hear that.
Why do we always assume someone is insecure?!
People have been considered insecure when they wear (too) much make up.
When they share their accomplishments on Facebook.
And apparently also when you just keep quiet about it.
Honestly, the last time I felt too critical towards myself, is over a decade ago.
Sometimes, it’s ok to give up.
Or take a break at least.
Trust me, a stalker alarm will be released if you apply for each and every vacancy 10 times.
Do you often think you’re the only rational person on earth?
What makes you think “are you for real?” ?